Dating After Divorce: Where to Begin

Embarking on the journey of dating after divorce can be a complex and transformative experience. As the chapters of your life unfold, the prospect of reentering the dating scene may elicit a mix of excitement, apprehension, and a myriad of emotions.

Navigating the world of post-divorce dating is akin to embarking on a new adventure—one that invites self-discovery, resilience, and the potential for meaningful connections. Whether you’re stepping back into the dating pool after a brief hiatus or a more extended period, let’s explore steps you can take to build your confidence in this new adventure.

Gather Support

Before you start dating, take time to get to know yourself again. It’s easy to lose track of your own identity when you’re in a relationship. Spend time building relationships with friends and family. Give yourself room to explore your own interests and hobbies. Think of this process as gathering supplies for your journey.

Know Your Goals

Your first step in any journey is to know where you’re starting from and where you’re headed. Make sure you’re taking lessons from your last relationship with you, letting go of any feelings of shame or regret. Understanding why your marriage didn’t work out can help you understand what you want your next relationship to look like.

We don’t always know how to set boundaries or recognize when people are treating us disrespectfully. Knowing how to communicate your goals and your boundaries will help you build a strong relationship.

Explore Your Options

We live in a digital era and there are so many options that it can be overwhelming. Get to know what’s out there and take some time exploring different apps and looking for recommendations on the internet. You don’t need to rush things and you don’t need to put more information into your profile than you’re comfortable—you can always go back and revise things later.

This might feel like a high stakes game, but you’re capable of surviving on your own. Take your time finding the right method for meeting new people, and then take your time finding the right people. 

silhouette of a woman looking out at a sunset skyGo Slowly and Be Mindful

Meeting new people can be scary—with that in mind, it’s important to stay safe. Identify a close friend or family member you can let know when you’re meeting someone new. Avoid rushing into trips and be wary of whirlwind romances that seem too good to be true. It can be fun to get caught up in a fantasy, but it’s important to stay grounded.

Remember, you’ve fought hard for your independence. A healthy relationship is one where both you and your partner have room to be yourselves. You can love someone without losing your identity.

Practice Honesty and Openness

When dating, people are often tempted to post old pictures or present an unrealistically rosy version of themselves. Do yourself a favor and try to love yourself as you are, flaws and all. You will feel far more confident and far more secure if you know that you don’t have anything to be ashamed of.

Be Realistic

Most dates don’t end in marriage. If you’re not feeling a connection with someone, take time to revisit your goals and what you’re looking for. When someone isn’t right for you, it’s okay if things fizzle out. Remember: this is time to explore and find what’s right for you.

Schedule a Call

If you’re divorced and struggling to figure out how to navigate dating, please don’t hesitate to schedule a consultation. There’s a whole world out there waiting for you. I’d love to help you make a plan to get started on your journey. Reach out to learn more about relationship counseling or online counseling.